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Getting over the Fear of Public Speaking: Discovering the Stage Fright Cure with Marti MacEwan (AoL 088)

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Stage fright, fear of public speaking, or performance anxiety are things that many people, especially creatives, have to deal with to achieve some sort of success in their lives.

If you want your message to be heard, then you’re just going to have to deal with it – so many of the experts say.

How exactly do you deal with it?

Personally, I’ve always struggled with it as far back as I can remember. It prevented me from joining the debate team in high school and it also prevented me from trying to achieve more in band. Later, when I was in college, I couldn’t help but have a dear in headlights look in my communications classes… and then finally, when I hit grad school, it was really a fight or flight situation. Either I get over it and teach 6 classes of 30+ students, or don’t go to grad school. I had no interest to do research.

Those classes were rough, but I made it through.

For today’s guest, Marti MacEwan, she had a similar struggle. It suddenly hit her when she attempted to sing – but couldn’t.

From that point on, she made it a point to figure out why she couldn’t. And she came to find out that it stemmed all the way back to her childhood.

As she found out where her fear actually came from, she learned to cope with it. What she found out she later shared in her book: The Stage Fright Cure.

In today’s chat, Veronica and I learn from Marti more about this path of hers, where the book came from, and some really good tips for you if you’re struggling with stage fright.

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What was Marti’s background with stage fright before she could help other people tackle theirs? 9:13
  • Why did she choose theatre as a major in college even though she would get stage fright? 11:00
  • How did Marti get into therapy while her background was in theatre? 13:01
  • What inspired Marti to write her book, the Stage Fright Cure? 15:52
  • What’s the difference between therapy, training, and coaching? 28:33
  • What’s her take on pivoting in one’s career successfully? 39:27
  • What are some of the things that someone can start doing to work on their own stage fright issues? 43:45
  • Top three favorite books? 52:54
  • What is a scientific fact that she knows but yet still blows her away? 56:32
  • What’s something that isn’t as hard as she thought it was going to be? 1:01:22
  • What’s a basic life skill that Marti is amazed people lack? 1:02:48
  • What does it mean to live a life of abundance? 1:04:30
  • … and MUCH more!

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SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Glenn Interviews Lewis Howes (Starts at 37:38):

A bit more about the Stage Fright Cure:

Marti discusses how to untie emotional knots with psychotherapy and energy work:

Prof. Dave Guin discusses why We Fear Public Speaking:

Richard Greene on the 7 Secrets of the Greatest Speakers in History:

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Surviving the Troughs of Life: What to Do When You’re Depressed with Anthony Hayes (AoL 087)

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Depression can be a heck of a struggle – and it can hit us at any time. For creatives, depression can be triggered by the simple feeling of being alone because no one understands what it is you’re trying to do. For a lot of people, though, it can set in from life not going the way we’d expect it to.

Personally, I went through depression 3 times in my first two years of college. I was used to being great in my academic studies and all of a sudden, I wasn’t. Eventually I found out that the cause of my depression was due to my major, and I switched soon thereafter.

For our guest, Anthony Hayes, he realized back in 2004 that he was chronically depressed himself. He set out on a mission to figure out how to not only get out of it, but then to not fall back into it ever again. Besides coming up with his M5 strategy, he also has written a book on the matter, and continues to help others with the problem.

Besides this mission, he’s the host of Me, Myself, and I Radio, and co-founder of the Facebook Community – Podcast Discovery Center.

Join us as we find out more about this journey of his and the purpose of his work that he does today.

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • How did Anthony realize that he was severely depressed? 9:55
  • How does he keep from entering into his troughs in life? 19:08
  • What was the purpose behind Anthony writing his book? 23:29
  • What’s Anthony’s podcast about and who should be listening? 27:13
  • What prompted Anthony to join Scott Doucet in creating the PDC? 33:25
  • What’s Anthony’s M5 Strategy and what effect they’ve had on his life? 39:27
  • What’s the big ambitions for Anthony in 2017? 47:10
  • 3 Top Favorite Books? 50:00
  • One thing he wishes was still a thing? 50:42
  • One gift that he likes giving others? 53:41
  • What’s one thing that all high school students must know? 54:25
  • How can someone be a difference maker in their community? 54:46
  • … and MUCH more!

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SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Anthony on the Importance of Goals as a Podcaster:

Anthony on the topic of including descriptions in your podcasts:

Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat on How Meditation Redefines pain, happiness, and satisfaction:

Light Watkins on Debunking the 5 Most Common Meditation Myths:

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What to do After Graduation: Why Your First Job Might Not be Your Best Choice with Brian Drury (AoL 086)

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I throw the term interesting around quite a bit – but I think it’s a great descriptive word for many of the guests that we have on the show.

Today’s guest is no different. Brian Drury leads a very interesting life.

From traveling all over the world for his day job, to being an author, speaker, and coach – it seems he has life made.

But it wasn’t always that way.

In fact, he started his career out of school like many of us – in a job that didn’t necessarily match who he was.

In this session’s discussion, Laila and I find out what prompted him to leave his first job out of college.

We also discuss what kind of process he went through to write his first book, and how he became a Amazon best seller.

If you feel that you might be going through a quarter life crisis (or even a mid life crisis!), then this chat is for you.

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What was Brian’s childhood like growing up? 7:07
  • Why was studying abroad such a pivotal moment in his life? 8:10
  • What prompted Brian to travel abroad during his college years? 10:34
  • What quarter-life crisis prompted Brian to figure out what he really wanted? 13:40
  • What gave Brian the initiative to write his first book and keep going when life got difficult? 21:20
  • What are some keys to Brian becoming a bestseller on Amazon? 38:48
  • How does Brian find the clients that he works with? 45:26
  • What’s Brian looking forward to right now? 49:15
  • What are Brian’s three favorite top books? 55:40
  • What’s one gift you like giving others? 56:53
  • What’s something we’d find in a manual in how to be creative? 57:30
  • One thing all high school students must know? 58:41
  • What does it mean to live a life of abundance? 1:00:30
  • … and MUCH more!

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

“Rewriting the Story of Your Life” at Penn State:

Fight Cancer with Happy!:

Sean Stephenson Dance Party:

Sean Stephenson TEDx Talk:

Labour of Love:

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How a Gamer Built an Ideal Career by Building Gaming Community Sites with Franz Cavatorta (AoL 085)

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We gamers – we’re an interesting group. For that matter, so is the gaming community at large. Many of us join the ranks for social reasons or just because it’s a great past-time.

When I first started playing online games, I quickly developed friendships with folks that I had never met. But because we were on daily, we got to know each other. I still keep in touch with some of those peeps – nearly 20 years later (dang).

It’s very common to build those bonds.

However, sometimes we outgrow our needs for games – we realize that there’s more out there and many of us have to put down the games to achieve those new things.

I’ve had to do that myself, as well as today’s guest.

However, I wouldn’t say that we’ve quit gaming as a whole. I’d still rather play than watch TV.

And today’s guest, Franz Cavatorta, has gone to another level – he actually makes fellow gamers his clients if they need a website done for their clan, guild, or crew.

In today’s chat, Daniel (also a gamer) and I talk with Franz. We learn what inspired him to start this business and some of the experiences he’s gone through to get to the level he’s at today.

He also discusses some of the things that this lifestyle allows him to do – which, in itself, is a great reason to start.

If you’re a gamer and you’re looking for some options to be more constructive with your time, then you might be able to learn a thing or two from Franz. Perhaps it all starts with being part of a gaming community?

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What kind of video games has Franz enjoyed playing? 8:10
  • What’s Franz’ perspective of the gaming world? 11:54
  • What’s his current lifestyle like now? 14:26
  • How did he learn the skill set that utilizes to do his work? 16:56
  • How long did it take him to start building his own business after creating his first gaming community? 22:12
  • How did he go from specifically developing for ThemeForest to starting to take on clients? 34:31
  • What kind of new clients is Sky Warrior themes interested in pursuing now? 36:41
  • What’s the benefit of a gaming clan having their own website? 40:04
  • How does someone build a community around their awesome new site? 43:17
  • What’s in the future of Skywarrior Themes? 47:27
  • 3 Influencers that have helped Franz get to where he is today? 54:22
  • Hardest thing he’s ever had to say no to? 56:13
  • What is something he still wishes was a thing? 59:20
  • What’s a life skill that he’s amazed that people lack? 1:00:41
  • Secret to achieving personal freedom? 1:05:33
  • … and MUCH more!

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SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Franz’ Kendo Action 1:

Franz’ Kendo Action 2:

Motorbiking Montage:

Airsoft Battle Footage:

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Arne Giske: Working While Traveling – Exploring a Digital Nomad’s Lifestyle (AoL 084)

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Living life on your own terms.

To some, that means simply having a business that allows them to stay at home and be with their kids. To others, that business might allow them to interact with some of the biggest names in their industry.

While yet others, like today’s guest, use their business as a method to not only enable them to work remotely, but as the motor for them to travel around the world as a major part of their lifestyle.

Arne Giske is what you’d call a digital nomad.

Having been an entrepreneur most of his life, he’s developed a business that allows him to not only be mobile, but engage with folks all over the world. During the time that he’s done this, he’s also developed a podcast and Facebook group under the brand “The Millennial Entrepreneur”.

In today’s chat with Arne, we find him just finishing up spending some time in Columbia before heading off to Florida for this weekend’s AdCon conference.

Daniel and I get the chance to find out more about his lifestyle including why he chose to live his life this way, some Do’s and Don’ts for growing a large Facebook group, and what business he currently finds himself in to power his way around the globe.

Arne’s a great guy to know if you’re looking to travel while working, too!

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • How did Arne become a pedicab driver and when did he start favoring entrepreneurship as part of his lifestyle? 8:18
  • What was Arne’s experience in the MLM world like after college? 14:46
  • What kind of lifestyle does Arne find himself in these days as a digital nomad? 18:00
  • What was it that made Arne believe that a job wasn’t something he wanted to do? 22:39
  • How does Arne help people see Facebook as a place for business? 23:26
  • What are some of Arne’s Do’s and Don’ts for his group? 28:08
  • What is it that Arne is currently building his business on? 31:10
  • How did he know he wanted to help other people with that particular skill? 33:37
  • Three top favorite books he recommends to people regularly. 40:08
  • Something Arne wishes was still a thing. 42:40
  • Smallest decision he’s made that has had the greatest impact on his life? 44:01
  • What basic life skill is he amazed people lack? 44:48
  • How can someone be a difference maker in their community? 47:27
  • … and MUCH more!

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SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Example of a Pedicab Driver at SXSW:

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Arne’s Good News from Columbia:

Arne Giske talks Chat Bots For Business:

Ask Me Anything with Arne Giske:

#AskGaryVee Session 244:

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Sabah Ali: The Double Major Entrepreneur – How to Combine College Life and Business Achievement (AoL 083)

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College can mean different experiences to different people.

For me, I lived two lives. One, when I was an undergrad, where I was studying all the time and worrying about why I sucked so bad at taking tests and feeling like I had to plagiarize just to pass my classes. I never felt comfortable in my own skin, let alone think about doing anything extracurricular.

And then, in grad school, things changed dramatically. I was suddenly forced into the front of the class – 6 times a week – and found myself in all kinds of clubs.

This had a profound effect on my perspective of life and I finally started emerging from my shell.

But that was just my take on college.

Some people go into college knowing precisely what they want to do. They also have a mission to do as well. Laila’s story was like that as we’ve come to learn. So is today’s guest, Sabah Ali.

Sabah is simply crushing her college career. Not only is she double majoring (yeah, that’s hard enough right there!) but she’s finding time to do a ton of extracurriculars. Writing and publishing a bestselling book. Starting a podcast. And even going to various conferences with mentors and various connections.

In this session’s chat, we find out more about this path of hers. Where the inspiration for the book and podcast came from, and how she’s successfully balancing everything.

As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What was Sabah’s life before he got started as an entrepreneur? 10:24
  • What inspired her to get into fashion? 11:57
  • Why did she double major in fashion and business? 14:16
  • What inspired her at an early age to want to start a fashion business? 17:05
  • What is Sabah currently working on (as of this interview)? 23:19
  • How has her background knowledge of achieving goals helped her create her book? 29:07
  • Why did she write a book in one are when she’s wanting to build a business in fashion? 35:05
  • What’s the story behind the event that Sabah is putting on at Iowa State? 39:28
  • If she could change the world anyway she could, what would she help other people go? 42:19
  • What can people expect from Sabah and Dan’s podcast? 44:53
  • How do they position the podcast? 47:09
  • 3 Influencers that have helped Sabah get to where she is today 51:16
  • What’s the hardest thing that she’s had to say no to? 51:49
  • Something she used to believe in as a 18 year old and doesn’t now? 52:14
  • If she woke up as her 10 year old self and all of her memories were still intact, what would she do? 52:47
  • What’s the secret to achieving personal freedom? 53:20
  • … and MUCH more!

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SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Hector Santiesteban interview:

Hanging Out while a new Spring Semester gets Started:

Thanks from Sabah:

Dorm Rooms to Conference Rooms – Pivoting in Your Life:

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Ryan Michler: The Order of Man – Teaching Guys How to Be Masculine Men (AoL 082)

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In today’s world, many would say that a lot of men have lost their masculinity.

That’s why guys like Neil Strauss, Jordan Harbinger, John Eldredge, and Brett McKay are as well known as they are.

They specialize in helping men get better in their lives. However, they each do so in very different ways.

Today’s guest, Ryan Michler, is adding his name to that list with his organization, the Order of Men.

I’m really thrilled to have him on as helping guys step into their own has a special meaning to me.

In fact, it’s one of the reasons I became a Mason. I wanted to join an organization that has been all about developing men as functional parts of their community.

In this session with Ryan, we discuss a number of topics including what inspired him to start Order of Man, how he’s built the group in such a short period of time, and what it might look like to be part of the organization.

As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What pulled Ryan into the military? 9:31
  • What got him to eventually start the Order of Man? 11:47
  • Who were some of the initial guys he wanted to have conversations with in his podcast? 17:16
  • How did Ryan move from free creative thought to monetization of Order of Man? 18:50
  • Is there a difference in membership and the curriculum of Order of Man? 21:26
  • What’s the Order of Man Live Event consist of? 23:53
  • How did Ryan get out of letting society tell him what to do? 27:13
  • How has Ryan figured out how to reach people at different levels of technical know how? 33:41
  • How did Ryan start building the Order of Man’s presence on Facebook? 36:15
  • How has the mindshift been for the members of the Order of Man? 43:34
  • What’s something that Ryan does on day 1 to rattle their chains in his masterminds? 45:28
  • Where does the inspiration for his daily posts come from? 46:43
  • What kind of mentorship has Ryan had and do they develop mentorship rings in the Order of Man? 48:25
  • How old is too old to stop trying to become a better man? 54:29
  • What have been Ryan’s challenges in walking the walk? 55:47
  • What’s Ryan looking forward to in 2017? 58:08
  • One thing under $100 that has changed his life? 59:54
  • Something he believed as a 20 year old that he’d tell himself was completely inaccurate? 1:00:15
  • Something all high school students must know? 1:00:43
  • What’s it mean to live a life of abundance? 1:01:04
  • … and MUCH more!

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin (Amazon Link)

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

8 Skill Sets Every Man Must Master:

The Importance of Mastery:

Be a Lighthouse:

10 Questions Answered about Ryan’s Beard:

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