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Surviving the Troughs of Life: What to Do When You’re Depressed with Anthony Hayes (AoL 087)

Depression can be a heck of a struggle – and it can hit us at any time. For creatives, depression can be triggered by the simple feeling of being alone because no one understands what it is you’re trying to do. For a lot of people, though, it can set in from life not going the way we’d expect it to.

Personally, I went through depression 3 times in my first two years of college. I was used to being great in my academic studies and all of a sudden, I wasn’t. Eventually I found out that the cause of my depression was due to my major, and I switched soon thereafter.

For our guest, Anthony Hayes, he realized back in 2004 that he was chronically depressed himself. He set out on a mission to figure out how to not only get out of it, but then to not fall back into it ever again. Besides coming up with his M5 strategy, he also has written a book on the matter, and continues to help others with the problem.

Besides this mission, he’s the host of Me, Myself, and I Radio, and co-founder of the Facebook Community – Podcast Discovery Center.

Join us as we find out more about this journey of his and the purpose of his work that he does today.

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • How did Anthony realize that he was severely depressed? 9:55
  • How does he keep from entering into his troughs in life? 19:08
  • What was the purpose behind Anthony writing his book? 23:29
  • What’s Anthony’s podcast about and who should be listening? 27:13
  • What prompted Anthony to join Scott Doucet in creating the PDC? 33:25
  • What’s Anthony’s M5 Strategy and what effect they’ve had on his life? 39:27
  • What’s the big ambitions for Anthony in 2017? 47:10
  • 3 Top Favorite Books? 50:00
  • One thing he wishes was still a thing? 50:42
  • One gift that he likes giving others? 53:41
  • What’s one thing that all high school students must know? 54:25
  • How can someone be a difference maker in their community? 54:46
  • … and MUCH more!

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SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Anthony on the Importance of Goals as a Podcaster:

Anthony on the topic of including descriptions in your podcasts:

Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat on How Meditation Redefines pain, happiness, and satisfaction:

Light Watkins on Debunking the 5 Most Common Meditation Myths:

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What to do After Graduation: Why Your First Job Might Not be Your Best Choice with Brian Drury (AoL 086)

I throw the term interesting around quite a bit – but I think it’s a great descriptive word for many of the guests that we have on the show.

Today’s guest is no different. Brian Drury leads a very interesting life.

From traveling all over the world for his day job, to being an author, speaker, and coach – it seems he has life made.

But it wasn’t always that way.

In fact, he started his career out of school like many of us – in a job that didn’t necessarily match who he was.

In this session’s discussion, Laila and I find out what prompted him to leave his first job out of college.

We also discuss what kind of process he went through to write his first book, and how he became a Amazon best seller.

If you feel that you might be going through a quarter life crisis (or even a mid life crisis!), then this chat is for you.

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What was Brian’s childhood like growing up? 7:07
  • Why was studying abroad such a pivotal moment in his life? 8:10
  • What prompted Brian to travel abroad during his college years? 10:34
  • What quarter-life crisis prompted Brian to figure out what he really wanted? 13:40
  • What gave Brian the initiative to write his first book and keep going when life got difficult? 21:20
  • What are some keys to Brian becoming a bestseller on Amazon? 38:48
  • How does Brian find the clients that he works with? 45:26
  • What’s Brian looking forward to right now? 49:15
  • What are Brian’s three favorite top books? 55:40
  • What’s one gift you like giving others? 56:53
  • What’s something we’d find in a manual in how to be creative? 57:30
  • One thing all high school students must know? 58:41
  • What does it mean to live a life of abundance? 1:00:30
  • … and MUCH more!

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

“Rewriting the Story of Your Life” at Penn State:

Fight Cancer with Happy!:

Sean Stephenson Dance Party:

Sean Stephenson TEDx Talk:

Labour of Love:

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How a Gamer Built an Ideal Career by Building Gaming Community Sites with Franz Cavatorta (AoL 085)

We gamers – we’re an interesting group. For that matter, so is the gaming community at large. Many of us join the ranks for social reasons or just because it’s a great past-time.

When I first started playing online games, I quickly developed friendships with folks that I had never met. But because we were on daily, we got to know each other. I still keep in touch with some of those peeps – nearly 20 years later (dang).

It’s very common to build those bonds.

However, sometimes we outgrow our needs for games – we realize that there’s more out there and many of us have to put down the games to achieve those new things.

I’ve had to do that myself, as well as today’s guest.

However, I wouldn’t say that we’ve quit gaming as a whole. I’d still rather play than watch TV.

And today’s guest, Franz Cavatorta, has gone to another level – he actually makes fellow gamers his clients if they need a website done for their clan, guild, or crew.

In today’s chat, Daniel (also a gamer) and I talk with Franz. We learn what inspired him to start this business and some of the experiences he’s gone through to get to the level he’s at today.

He also discusses some of the things that this lifestyle allows him to do – which, in itself, is a great reason to start.

If you’re a gamer and you’re looking for some options to be more constructive with your time, then you might be able to learn a thing or two from Franz. Perhaps it all starts with being part of a gaming community?

Thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What kind of video games has Franz enjoyed playing? 8:10
  • What’s Franz’ perspective of the gaming world? 11:54
  • What’s his current lifestyle like now? 14:26
  • How did he learn the skill set that utilizes to do his work? 16:56
  • How long did it take him to start building his own business after creating his first gaming community? 22:12
  • How did he go from specifically developing for ThemeForest to starting to take on clients? 34:31
  • What kind of new clients is Sky Warrior themes interested in pursuing now? 36:41
  • What’s the benefit of a gaming clan having their own website? 40:04
  • How does someone build a community around their awesome new site? 43:17
  • What’s in the future of Skywarrior Themes? 47:27
  • 3 Influencers that have helped Franz get to where he is today? 54:22
  • Hardest thing he’s ever had to say no to? 56:13
  • What is something he still wishes was a thing? 59:20
  • What’s a life skill that he’s amazed that people lack? 1:00:41
  • Secret to achieving personal freedom? 1:05:33
  • … and MUCH more!

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Franz’ Kendo Action 1:

Franz’ Kendo Action 2:

Motorbiking Montage:

Airsoft Battle Footage:

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Cheers!

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Make a Living From Your Passion: Pivoting – The Key to Success

Recently I heard an interview of Lewis Howes on the Glenn Beck Program. For one, it’s awesome that he was able to be on the show. It gives the online marketing world a bit of credibility when one of our own goes mainstream like that – even though Glenn really isn’t that mainstream.

But secondly, he talked about many things in the interview that I didn’t know. Things that started filling up some holes in his story that I didn’t know.

One of the biggest things he talked about in the chat was a word called “pivoting”.

This word is something I want to discuss in this week’s post and why it’s important that you know how to do it.

 

The Importance of Pivoting

Sometimes, in doing work we believe is our passion, we find out that the work we’re doing isn’t sustainable.

Perhaps it’s not bringing in as much revenue as we would have expected, or maybe we just grow tired of the work itself.

Whatever the reason, it seems like it’s just not working for us anymore.

The question then comes up, should we simply persevere, quit, or pivot.

For many, the solution would be to either persevere or quit. You either keep going through the bad times because something good is eventually going to happen… right?

Or, on the other hand, you choose to just stop.

Here’s the thing, though. The perseverance thing is borderline insanity. And nothing ever happens if you just “quit”. Nothing.

What I learned from Lewis in his conversation with Glenn is that his life is full of pivoting.

He chose to get off his sister’s couch as opposed to being mad at the universe and staying there.

He chose to win.

 

How to Pivot:

Now you might be wondering – how exactly do I pivot.

Well, pivoting simply means to figure out what IS working and then adjust.

 

Let’s say you have a niche product that you designed with the help of your potential clients in the hospitality industry.

You ended up with a site that would allow your users to book tables online. However, you realized that they simply were using it to check menus.

How could you pivot from that?

Since the menus are all they want, maybe focus on getting as many menus as possible and giving away a few with a free account – if they want more. Or you could make the service free for a certain amount of time and then charge a certain amount from there.

 

Here’s an example using niche marketing.

In the movie “The Founder”, we saw that Ray Kroc felt that he was getting screwed out of what should have been owed to him by the McDonald’s brothers.

So, instead of simply selling the idea of the restaurant to the potential franchisees, he started the actual real estate side of what would eventually be the McDonald’s Corporation. The company would do the work to find the best locations for the store, and then turn around and lease that land to the franchisee when they started their own restaurant.

 

Additional Sources:

If it sounds like it might be time for you to pivot in your life or business, I have a few other sources just for you.

I want to make sure you hear the conversation between Glenn and Lewis from this past Friday. It’s great stuff that I think anyone who’s trying to build their own passion based business should hear.

When the NFL didn’t work out for Lewis – he could have quit right then, but he chose not to:


Another source is from Success Magazine. In this post, they say to keep from failing completely,  you need to ask “What’s next?”. As you’ll find out, being to answer that question is vital to being successful.

 

And finally, our friends over at Fizzle discussed this question early on about businesses. They answer the question of knowing When is it time to quit, pivot, or persevere?

Action Steps:

Here’s the thing, pivoting is a huge part of being an entrepreneur. If something isn’t working, you simply can’t give up and quit.

When things are definitely not working, you can’t just hope for the best.

 

There was a book I read in college called “Who Moved My Cheese?” about two mice that found themselves in a maze on a daily basis. The goal was to get to the cheese the quickest. After a while, the cheese wasn’t there anymore. One mouse decided that they would keep going to the same place, day after day, hoping that the cheese would come back.

The other mouse, set out into the deeper parts of the maze to see if had been moved.

Low and behold, it was.

A good entrepreneur always has plan A’s, B’s, and C’s so that if one of those plans looks like it’s actually failing, they can move on to the next one.

If you’ve had to pivot in your life or business, I’d love to hear about it!

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Make a Living From Your Passion: Which Niche Strategy Works Best For You?

After I posted last week about niche marketing and niche product development, I had some really interesting conversations with a few people. These discussions were with some relatively new entrepreneurs.

There were several questions that came up – including one that I’m going to discuss here.

The question is “Which niche strategy do I choose?”

I think it’s an important question because I really think it depends on where someone is in life on what kind of advice you can give them.

 

Getting to Know You:

So let’s say that we were meeting up, and you asked me how you could become an entrepreneur.

I would first ask you how imperative it is that you have money right away. I’d also check to see how you felt about your sales skills.

Because, let’s face it, if you have need money yesterday, and you have great sales skills, I’m going to have a much different answer for you than if you had your finances covered for a bit and you didn’t have the best sales skills.

The next question I’d ask is about your Why. Why do you want to become an entrepreneur?

If you’re reasoning is because you feel having a job that you need to report to on a daily basis isn’t for you, then I would agree that you might need to be your own boss. If you had a compelling mission that you felt that only you could achieve – then I would definitely agree that you should start your own business that could support that mission.

 

Scenario A:

But let’s look at this a bit closer. Here are two cases that many folks might find themselves in.

I find this traits with millennials quite a bit. Especially with those straight out of school – high school or college.

Does this describe you?

  1. You need money asap.
  2. No sales skills.
  3. It’s hard for you to tolerate having a regular day job.
  4. And you don’t know what your life purpose is.

That’s totally fine to be there. I’ve been there myself.

What I’d recommend is following the niche product development method. See if there’s some industry that you would like to get involved with and help them find a solution to a big pain.

But I’d also see if you couldn’t find some online work to utilize any skills you currently have.

Now, a couple of things on this. One – don’t confuse doing odd jobs here and there as working on your figuring out what your own mission is. Being a remote worker is a form of a job. But at least this way, you have some money coming in for part time work.

Another thing –  If you opt to do online work – do it in something you have at least an interest in developing as a craft. That way you can get paid to learn something you can use in your own business.

As to where to find this work, Fiverr is a great place to start. Then, if you feel like you might want to pursue some bigger freelance work, you can move over to sites like Upwork or Thumbtack.

If freelancing isn’t your thing, there are other places where you can find online work. Here’s a good write up by Katelyn Smith over at The Remote Nomad of sites that offer longer term work.

Whether you go long term or short term, again, the reason I suggest looking for online/remote work is because you need to still be making an income. Wherever you have a computer and broadband internet access, then you can work remotely as a VA.

 

Scenario B:

Another scenario I hear about fairly often are those who have had a job for awhile, but they know they want more.

Does this describe you?

  1. You have a bit of savings (or some other runway) available to be put towards a new business.
  2. You have ok to great sales skills.
  3. You’re ok with a day job, but it still leaves a void in you.
  4. You have or haven’t found your life purpose and/or mission.

 

Well, I’d also say to use the niche product development here as well. BUT, I might suggest that this is a great time to look at MLM’s as well.

As I previously covered in the last post, this is pretty much one of the few times where you should be using niche marketing right out of the box.

The deal with an MLM or “Multi-Level Marketing” opportunity is that it takes a certain level of sales awareness to not completely alienate yourself from people you already know. If you’ve never done sales (or know how to generate leads), then your experience might end up as more a social club for you more-so than a profitable opportunity.

This is what happened to me with LTD.

I loved the knowledge I got from the group and the relationships I built, but I never came to actually bringing in more money than I put in.

This was totally my fault. I wasn’t aware at how bad I was at sales when I first started. And those folks that I tried selling the idea to at the time… well the word “manipulation” is a bit closer to describing what I was actually doing.

That said, if you don’t know if you want to commit to starting your own business from scratch, then an MLM might be the right thing to do. They’re great training and a great network.

Or, if you think you are ready to start your own business, then you could potentially weave an MLM in there as well – if it aligns with what you’re looking to do.

 

Any Scenario:

Regardless of the direction you’re wanting to go, my main suggestion is this. Don’t feel like you don’t deserve success in your life – even if you feel like you’ve wasted precious hours of your life to this point.

Dane Maxwell put it like this once:

Most of us need to deal with our personal feelings of inadequacy. The greatest killer from our research at The Foundation is people dealing with the feeling of inadequacy.

You have always been fully adequate to do what you want to do. You just need the right path. Your feelings have nothing to do with you being successful or not. You just need the right path to follow. Trust this path, NOT your feeling.

If you can cut out all the noise and focus on building your business, you will absolutely excel fast and change your life. No longer do you need to be intimidated.”

In short, we’re all our worst critics. If you can learn to control those emotions or negative gut reactions, then you’re finally giving yourself the freedom to achieve something great in your life.

 

Action Steps:

I hope this gives you a bit more insight into answering this question of which strategy to use and when.

Please note that these are only two possible scenarios. Everyone has a unique situation. My goal was to look at two separate extremes.

If you’ve already started a business, I’d love to hear from you below in how you got started. Did you start first for the money or did you rock the passion perspective?

If you need help thinking about this further, shoot us an email through the contact tab above. Let’s get this figured out!

 

BONUS:

I thought I’d share this recent favorite of the #AskGaryVee show. Gary shares lots of of parallel thoughts throughout this one!

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Ryan Michler: The Order of Man – Teaching Guys How to Be Masculine Men (AoL 082)


In today’s world, many would say that a lot of men have lost their masculinity.

That’s why guys like Neil Strauss, Jordan Harbinger, John Eldredge, and Brett McKay are as well known as they are.

They specialize in helping men get better in their lives. However, they each do so in very different ways.

Today’s guest, Ryan Michler, is adding his name to that list with his organization, the Order of Men.

I’m really thrilled to have him on as helping guys step into their own has a special meaning to me.

In fact, it’s one of the reasons I became a Mason. I wanted to join an organization that has been all about developing men as functional parts of their community.

In this session with Ryan, we discuss a number of topics including what inspired him to start Order of Man, how he’s built the group in such a short period of time, and what it might look like to be part of the organization.

As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What pulled Ryan into the military? 9:31
  • What got him to eventually start the Order of Man? 11:47
  • Who were some of the initial guys he wanted to have conversations with in his podcast? 17:16
  • How did Ryan move from free creative thought to monetization of Order of Man? 18:50
  • Is there a difference in membership and the curriculum of Order of Man? 21:26
  • What’s the Order of Man Live Event consist of? 23:53
  • How did Ryan get out of letting society tell him what to do? 27:13
  • How has Ryan figured out how to reach people at different levels of technical know how? 33:41
  • How did Ryan start building the Order of Man’s presence on Facebook? 36:15
  • How has the mindshift been for the members of the Order of Man? 43:34
  • What’s something that Ryan does on day 1 to rattle their chains in his masterminds? 45:28
  • Where does the inspiration for his daily posts come from? 46:43
  • What kind of mentorship has Ryan had and do they develop mentorship rings in the Order of Man? 48:25
  • How old is too old to stop trying to become a better man? 54:29
  • What have been Ryan’s challenges in walking the walk? 55:47
  • What’s Ryan looking forward to in 2017? 58:08
  • One thing under $100 that has changed his life? 59:54
  • Something he believed as a 20 year old that he’d tell himself was completely inaccurate? 1:00:15
  • Something all high school students must know? 1:00:43
  • What’s it mean to live a life of abundance? 1:01:04
  • … and MUCH more!

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin (Amazon Link)

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

8 Skill Sets Every Man Must Master:

The Importance of Mastery:

Be a Lighthouse:

10 Questions Answered about Ryan’s Beard:

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Andre Kane: Good Times, Radio, and Passion: The Making of the Electric Radio Show (AoL 081)

Passion comes in all kinds of shapes, ideas, and movements.

Whether that takes the form of being a coach, a TED presenter, or an artist, there’s so many ways of expressing what you love to do. You simply have to figure out what that is.

Sometimes figuring out what something is can be the hard part. Other times, it can be the easy part.

Take for example, this session’s guest, Andre Kane.

After realizing he wasn’t going to make a career in a rock band, he went back to school and ended up working in a radio station as an intern.

A split decision made him choose that path. And to this day, he enjoys being on the radio with his partner in crime, Jack Hammer.

In this session, I find out more about that split decision to get into radio, learn about some of the more memorable guests and moments they’ve had on the show, and we also talk a little radio geekery.

As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • How did Andre get into radio? 7:45
  • How did he finally get on the air? 13:37
  • What does a producer actually do – radio wise? 16:04
  • Did he ever hear of 1190 WOWO out of Ft. Wayne, IN? 18:54
  • How did the Electric Radio/Morning Show get started? 20:54
  • What’s TSL and how it played a part in them knowing they had a hit. 28:38
  • What are some of the more memorable times and guests they’ve had on the show over the years? 29:57
  • How did Andre get big names on his show? 31:58
  • What’s Andre looking forward to in 2017? 37:41
  • Who are Andre’s 3 top influencers who have helped launch him to where he is today? 44:48
  • Smallest decision that has made the largest impact on his life? 46:19
  • Something he believed as a 30 year old and now finds completely inaccurate and why? 47:52
  • What’s the secret to achieving personal freedom? 48:58
  • … and MUCH more!

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

Walking Dead Interview Promo:

Footage from 2009 doing Prune Juice Trivia:

Good Times Montage – The Show Must Go On:

On a Ghost Hunt in LimonCello’s at The Orange Inn:

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